For most of my life, when I approached anything I wanted to have or achieve, my self-talk prepared me for how I’d feel if I didn’t get it. I talked myself out of winning, sometimes out of even trying, because I wanted to prepare myself for the sting of failure and disappointment. It was a …
I slumped in front of the counselor with a full-on ugly cry, confused and struggling. A few short months after my ex-husband and I had separated, my counselor asked me how I saw myself. I didn’t know how to answer her. Shamefully, apart from my ex-husband, I grappled to define who I was. She challenged me to discover my identity as a …
By publishing this post on my blog today, I am entering the writing contest, “Overcoming Writer’s Doubt” held by Positive Writer. Whether you are a writer, a creative-type, or just a Type A struggling with perfectionism, I hope you will pick up a few weapons here for your fight. A few years ago, …
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As perfectionists, we tend a little toward isolation. We have friends. But, we’ve learned that in order to keep up with our impossible standards of being perfect, we must keep them at a safe distance, or they will see all our imperfections. Seriously. Who are we kidding? But that is exactly what I spent the …
Five Minute Friday is a weekly writing challenge in which hundreds of people participate. Everyone writes for five minutes on one word issued every Friday at 12:01am. Unscripted. Unedited. Real. The challenge for me is not the first five minutes of writing. It is to abandon perfectionism in the minutes that follow… Together As a …
I will never forget the moment I held my daughter in my arms for the first time. A love was birthed on the inside of me like I had never known. I was completely overtaken with LOVE. It was tender, and it was fierce. When the nurse nestled that tight little bundle in my …
Fasten your seatbelts all my Type-A’s… Turns out, there’s nothing wrong with a little off-roading. I know from personal experience that if your comfort zone is between the white lines, you would never even dream of off-roading. You use your blinker and obey the posted speed. You map out your course before you leave …
Life is good. Even when it’s hard, life is good. For me, this always comes in the form of gratitude. When my heart hurts, or the voices in my head get all grouchy, when I am running like a hamster in a wheel – that is what stops me in my tracks. Gratitude. It changes …
